#296: Stop Hustling and Start Healing | Tamatha Grabin

What does building three businesses from a small town in Wyoming have to do with healing your hormones? Everything.

In this episode, Dr. Tabatha sits down with her dear friend and faith-driven entrepreneur Tamatha Grabin to talk about the thing most women never realize -- the pattern of hustle that's running your business is the same pattern that's burning out your body.

Tamatha has spent 25+ years building businesses with purpose. She founded a traveling nurse agency, grew it, and sold it. She built babyriddle.com before online boutiques were a thing. She runs deSensua, an essential oil company that reaches customers nationwide -- all from Buffalo, Wyoming.

But this conversation isn't really about business. It's about what happens when you stop grinding long enough to actually hear God.

IN THIS EPISODE:

-       Why hustle is a healing block -- not just a business problem

-       How letting go of old patterns creates space for what God actually has for you

-       The parallel between business seasons and hormonal seasons -- and why your old strategies won't work on your new body

-       What perseverance actually looks like when you can't see the other side

-       Legacy -- what you're passing to your daughters by how you care for yourself right now

-       The quiet counter-move to anxiety: why stillness creates clarity

CLOSING SCRIPTURE:

James 1:2-4 -- "Consider it pure joy whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything."

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Transcript

Stop Hustling And Get Quiet

SPEAKER_01 0:00

When things aren't working for us, our natural nature is to hustle and to grind more. But I would just urge people to just stop. Like that's the hardest thing is to just stop and to get quiet and to really listen to your body, listen to what God is saying to you. When you can do that, because the world will tell you to hustle, figure it out, keep grinding, like do 30,000 diets, and then read all this stuff and you know just do what the world's telling you to. But God really tells us just to stop and rest.

Dr. Tabatha 0:44

If you're tired of doing all the right things and still feeling exhausted, stuck in your body, and disconnected from God, this podcast is for you. I'm Dr. Tabitha, a triple board certified functional medicine physician, and I help women stop fighting their bodies and start healing them God's way. Let's get into it. Here's something nobody tells you about healing. The season that feels like it's breaking you, it might be the season God is building you. Today I'm sitting down with my incredible friend Tamitha. She is a faith-driven entrepreneur who built not one but three businesses from a small town in rural Wyoming. And what she's learned in 25 years of building and setbacks is exactly what you need to hear if you're in a hard season with your health right now. So this is Fast of Faith. Let's go. Hi, Ashley. Hey there. How are you doing? Oh my gosh, I'm so pumped. I love our guest. I cannot wait for the world to know her because I fell in love with her immediately. Oh, amazing. I know. You weren't there. I was out in California. Um, I am in a mastermind run by Brooke Thomas, and I met this beautiful woman whose name was almost like mine, you know, just an M instead of a B. And so we immediately connected. And I think I shared my tattoo story a little bit a few months ago, right? But Tamitha was the beautiful woman that went with me when I was acting crazy and just like, oh my gosh, I have to get this word tattooed on my arm. God had been nudging me for about eight months to

The Chosen Tattoo And Calling

Dr. Tabatha 2:38

tattoo the word chosen, and I didn't feel worthy. I didn't feel like that is something that I could put on my body in a spot where people could see. He was like, No, it needs to be right there. And you have your tattoo. And I would look at it and he'd be like, When are you gonna get your tattoo? So Tamitha and I did this experience at Brooke's house, and we dove really deep into like what is in our heart, because um how you think in your heart is who you are. That's what the Bible tells us. And that day, God was like, You have to get this tattoo. And I told Tamitha, and she was like, Okay, let's go, girl. And here's the most beautiful part Tamitha prayed over me in her car for gosh, like five minutes. And I got this incredible vision of Acts 940. It is where Peter is asked to come see this dead woman. She'd passed away, they put her in an upper room. She was a seamstress. Um, she helped so many women in her community, and all the women in the community were sad that she died. And that is who my mom named me after, this woman in the Bible, Tabitha. And she's a seamstress, and so she connected to this woman. But Peter walks into the room and says, Tabitha, get up. And she goes out and she blesses so many other women after that in her community. And like, I just had this vision of like, oh my gosh, God, I see the dots now. It's all starting to make sense. I was dead in my sins, I was dead in my previous life. You have made me alive again, and I just have to acknowledge that publicly. I have to tattoo that on myself. And so Tamitha chat GPT'd me a beautiful little image, and we got it done. And I was so grateful for her friendship. And she's one of those women, like, we just dove in the deep end together. The day we met, we're like all out on the table. Every you know, thing we've been through. It was just a beautiful uh relationship that grew so quickly. And um, she's just a wealth of knowledge, and I can't wait to share her with you and with the world.

Ashlee 5:09

So that's awesome.

Dr. Tabatha 5:10

Yeah, I know. I had to share that because sometimes you meet people and they're part of your your path, right? They're really part of the core of who you are when you're finding yourself, when you're finding your relationship with Jesus. And Tamitha, welcome. I think you're one of those people for me. You're just you bring me closer to Jesus.

SPEAKER_01 5:37

Oh, I love that. Thank you so much. That just blesses my heart because I feel the same way about you. It's like it's just that almost like that ironing, sharpening iron that you just need people, and God at the perfect time always brings that connection. And so I've I've just been so blessed. And I love our names. I love hanging out with you. It's so fun to tell people our names. I know they do a double take, they're like, wait, what?

Dr. Tabatha 6:06

Yeah, so fun. Okay. Well, you are a savvy business woman. I've learned so much from you already. And I the coolest part is like you created an online business before like online businesses were cool, right? Oh, yeah. Oh my gosh. So I want to hear from you like, why do you think you were called to that? Because you were running a nursing, you know, support staff agency, and like everything just shifted for you, and you persevered through so much turmoil, and now you're in this space where like everybody's starting an online business. So I just want to get some wisdom from you because, like I mentioned um at the get-go, how we do one thing is how we do all things. So I I know that you've learned things creating a business and being successful in business that have spilled over into your health, into your relationships with your husband and your children and all the things, right? So I just want to like dive into all of that. So, where do you want to start?

SPEAKER_01 7:22

Oh, uh, it's funny because I, you know, God will take you get you to a certain point, like your 50s, and you reevaluate and you look back and go, wow, that's what you were doing. But you're in the middle of the process, and and so, you know, I look at every season of my life and where God has taken me and every opportunity, every door he's opened for me, every hard thing I've been through, every difficult person I've dealt with, raising children, all of that, starting businesses. It's like, you know, I just look at it and I at like from that point to 50, I'm like, wow, that's what you were doing, you know, because you get caught so caught up in the middle of all of it. And I look back on that season, you know, I I had no idea I was gonna be a businesswoman. I um went to Bible school. Then I decided when I was on the mission field in Brazil that I was gonna become a nurse because I wanted to build a uh excuse me, a malaria clinic and go back there and serve. But then I got back and um I started going

From Nursing To Building Businesses

SPEAKER_01 8:49

through nursing school, finished it, and within seven months um I got connected into this travel nurse agency, and um, which is impossible when you just first graduate from nursing school, you have to have a couple years experience. Um I I worked for they let me work for seven months, and then I was like, hey, let's build a business. And I would have had no idea like where God, like He does the impossible, you know, if I don't put you in certain places. And so that started my business career. And but I look back and I I'm so grateful uh for the process that he's taken me through. And I like the process now because I can look back and go, wow, you are building my character, all this hard stuff. You are like shaping me for this moment and season now so that I can be a blessing wherever I go. So uh I look at the whole aspect of it and I I I just I'm thankful for the seasons, you know.

Dr. Tabatha 9:59

Yeah, I'm sure there's women thinking, oh my gosh, you just went to school for nursing, you're gonna do mission work. How do you take such a hard left and go in a different direction and not uh just be afraid, you know? So many women, they they see that opportunity, but they don't take it. Why do you think you took it?

SPEAKER_01 10:25

Um I just think, you know, I think when God is when you're trusting in God, and I think that doors open up, and I've always been a risk taker, you know. I like I like change and and I never knew I liked challenge so much. But um, God knows you. That's the beautiful thing, is He knows you, He built you, and He will equip you. And so, you know, I think it's just that that trusting and then just walking in the door and trusting. But, you know, again, you go back to when you you you have to be in movement to see what God is gonna do. Like you have to move. And so I think it was my movement, and it was not that I saw the whole picture, but I saw that he was um, I just moved little by little, and that's how God God works. So it wasn't like me knowing the whole picture, it was just taking a step of faith and trusting, you know, and I don't I don't even know back then if I would say, well, I would say it was trusting, but you know, it's it's that movement that in trying to make a change and opening your mind and not holding on to the old stuff because this is the season I'm in too. It's like and I think it's a constant thing that God is doing in us. It's like, what are you holding on to back there? Because if you're holding on to stuff back there and what you think you should be or be doing or doing for your body, like especially in this season when you hit menopause, it's like it's it's not the same as it was back there. But if you keep holding on to the old ways, you're gonna be stuck with the old systems, and uh so I think that just that moving forward, um, that movement of releasing old thoughts and moving into the new ones um has been really helpful for me. And and sometimes I don't even know I'm doing it, but I just kept moving.

Dr. Tabatha 12:40

Ooh, okay, Academy coaching director. Can you highlight that? Because we try to drill that into women all of the time. You just need to get into messy action. You need to move your body, you need to clean out your pantry, you need to make some decisions and just move forward because God's doing a new thing, right?

Ashlee 13:01

Yeah. The whole time you were talking, I was thinking about Lot's wife, and like you literally just can't look back. And I feel like God's been working on me a little bit with this too, because we can get really caught up in our past, especially with like Facebook memories. Like you can look at those every day and you can see past things and you remember things in a different way than you probably felt when you were going through it. And so you look at those memories and you think all these wonderful thoughts, but really you were probably going through hell then too. You just kind of blocked that out. And so I've actually stopped looking at my Facebook memories over the last three or four months because it can be painful, to be straight up honest. Um, and like you said, when your body goes through changes, it you have to change what you're doing. And so we do. We have to take just small, simple steps. And some people just try to change everything all at once, and that's where the failure happens. I think you just need to focus on one thing today, take that step, and then just keep going. Like you said, get into messy action. But you absolutely have to stop looking back.

Dr. Tabatha 14:03

Okay, you just um explained why I've been struggling for the past few weeks with my son graduating high school. Those darn Facebook memories. All the pictures of him as a child were are they popping up, but then we had to go through them to get ready for his party. Absolutely. And there are times when you have to do that. And so that brings up memories of being married to his dad and my previous life and all the stuff, and looking back, and you're right, you don't remember it in the same way.

Ashlee 14:35

Yeah, you really just look at the joyful moments. You're obviously not posting the crappy moments on Facebook. Let's be real. And so, like, you're you're looking and you're probably not taking pictures of crappy moments. So when you're looking at those photos, all you're seeing is the joy, and you probably like it just isn't really there. It warps your mind. Yeah, it does, and it makes you feel like, oh gosh, maybe I shouldn't have done XYZ, but you did and you've moved on, and you've got to stop looking back. But it's it's really hard. It's hard not to compare to your past. Okay, Tamitha.

Dr. Tabatha 15:06

So was that why it was easier to start your businesses back in the day because you didn't have social media to compare your business to what everybody else's businesses are doing. Do you feel a difference in this day and age running your businesses now that um you can literally compare yourself to a hundred other online businesses?

SPEAKER_01 15:31

Oh yeah, like that's uh a real thing with um sometimes I stay purposely stay off social media because I realize like I'm starting to slow down um just spiritually and emotionally by not looking at social media all the time because I recognize what it creates in me is uh anxiety. Um, so back then, yeah, you didn't you didn't have that. You had other things, more the unknown, like um, I got a problem solved, how am I gonna do this? And of course you didn't have the resources, but now you have so much, and and we can get, you know, into so many, like, I need to do this, I need to do that, I need to, like, even even with like weight loss, I need to do this, I need to do that, I need to follow this, I need to do that. And then, like, that anxiety that it creates doesn't create enough

Social Media Anxiety And Looking Back

SPEAKER_01 16:33

space to really hear what God is saying to you, what your body needs, what our business needs, and so that's the state that I'm in. It's just that real like getting quiet so that I can really hear, because quietness creates clarity. And then also, you know, of course, you look at your competition or you know, old things, and you just start like, and and you're right, like going back, like I this season in our business, and even my personal life, even my weight loss life, um, it's like if I keep looking back, I'm holding on to old things that will never shift me, never change me. And and God is, you know, you think about God, He re He says He renews us every single day. We're new people every single day. So if we're holding back onto things that used to work for us in our business, or used to work in how I used to lose weight, or you know, uh used to how I did things spirit, even spiritually. It's like they're dead, they're gone, they're old, and just looking forward um has really shifted. Like I just have to be like I'm new every day, and my body's new every day, my mind is new every single day, um, has really helped me to not. I mean, I I take the old stuff as learning lessons, but the new stuff as um growth. So I heard a great statement, statement, and it was like, would you rather be um uh an expert in the old or a novice in the new? And it was really powerful because of all the way things are changing um in our whole world, and you know, and it it even goes back to our bodies. Like I would rather be a novice in the new. I I would just rather set my mind to figuring out and recreating new solutions for myself.

Ashlee 18:46

Yeah, I feel like this kind of goes back to what I said yesterday on our sisterhood call. Like, God doesn't want us to just survive, he really truly wants us to thrive in the season that we're walking in.

Dr. Tabatha 18:57

Absolutely. He absolutely does. John didn't tend. Like he did not die for us to have a miserable life, he died for us to have life to the full. And so much of that is distorted, and we really can buy into a lot of those lies. Something else I want to unpack is this idea that you have to sacrifice your health if you want to be a successful businesswoman, or you have to sacrifice your family, you know, like you can't figure out how to do it all. And maybe it's not all in the same season, but I truly believe when you are conquering your health and and caring for yourself and you know, getting in the word to start your day, like it just makes all the other things fall into place easier, running a business, creating, you know, teams, doing things, being a leader or you know, homeschooling or whatever you're doing. I it is all connected. And so I it's not that you can have it all, it's that you just show up as this person who actually cares enough about her body and that spills over into her family and her in her business. Um, I would love for you to speak to that because I I think we all get into these seasons, I know I do, where I'm grinding and hustling and working on my business the way the world tells me to, and I forget about my body and I forget about my health, and then I pay the price, and God's like, that's not how I asked you to do it, you know, and you have to come back into alignment with with what He wants for you, right?

SPEAKER_01 20:45

Right, yes, for sure. So one thing that um really has stood out to me, and especially like this season, I really because I've like you know, like you've done it all where you're you get in that hustle and then you try to rebalance, or you know, things are always getting out of balance in life, and so this season I've really again slowed down and go, where do I operate at my very best, at my highest level? And it's when I'm at peace. And my peace comes from when I spend time with the Lord, so that's my spiritual aspect. Um, when my soul is healed, when I'm really slowing down enough to ask God to heal my soul, my emotions, um, when I have those under control, and then in movement, you know, in my physical body. It's like so when those three things come into alignment, like your days you operate at your best, your highest level, and so I think that's But um again, going back to that, just taking that time to make sure that those three things are in alignment, you operate at your highest level always, and

Peace Aligns Spirit Soul And Body

SPEAKER_01 22:14

so that's the hardest part is when we get into seasons where we uh are, you know, when things aren't working for us, our natural nature is to hustle and to grind more. But I would just urge people to just stop, like that's the hardest thing is to just stop and to get quiet and to really listen to your body, listen to what God is saying to you. And um, when when you can do that, because the world will tell you to hustle, figure it out, keep grinding, like do 30,000 diets and um you know, and then read all this stuff and and you know, just do what the world's telling you to, but God really tells us just to stop and rest. And then when we catch that rest, like my favorite verses or scripture is Psalm 23. That's been my season. Like, boy, I'm just peaceful when I'm walking by the still waters, you know, he's leading me there, and he's making me lie down in the green grass, and all the other things just disappear, and then I can rest and find the right path again.

Dr. Tabatha 23:32

Real quick, I just want to interrupt this conversation for something super important. Even though we need to take care of ourselves spiritually, emotionally, and physically, we do have to take care of ourselves at a cellular level. And that is why I have my Fast to Face supplement line. So let's just take a minute to hear about something that might be the game changer that you need in this season.

SPEAKER_00 24:00

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Metabolit And Natural GLP-1 Support

Ashlee 25:02

Okay, this is so wild. So this morning I woke up with like this really nice sense of peace, and I was sat down to do my Bible time, and I am leading a call tomorrow for our coaches, and I just really felt like I was like, get your pen out, you gotta start writing. And he gave me Ecclesiastics 1010 this morning, and it says that if an axe is dull, more strength is needed, but skill will bring success. And so I'm using that scripture tomorrow for the call because what we do is we try to sharpen that doll axe ourselves instead of sharpening our skills and learning more and sitting still with the Lord. And that's kind of what happened to me this morning. I like walked away from this beautiful time with the Lord. I did my workout, I was feeling good, and then I opened up my email. That was dumb because then all the worldly stuff started coming after me and it started sucking the peace out of me. And I'm realizing why that happened because we were gonna have this conversation today. But it is just so important to have that quiet time and be still. And but in this world, it doesn't want us to be still. So we're literally fighting against that every single day, all day long. And sometimes it can be exhausting. Absolutely.

Dr. Tabatha 26:16

I mean, that is the how self-help way, like fix it yourself, figure it out yourself. You are your own savior. And I'm sorry, but your ego needs to die because you're not your own savior, and

Distraction Proofing Your Daily Walk

Dr. Tabatha 26:29

that is why you keep spiraling, right? So, oh, I'm excited about the training tomorrow. That's gonna be that's gonna be some fun.

Ashlee 26:38

I know I did it, did it hold 180 this morning. So I was like, okay, got it.

SPEAKER_01 26:43

Well, and you think about um just real quickly, I was just thinking about how the enemy, you know, like we think that he tries to make us like sin, or um, you know, if he can't catch us in sin, what are the things he's gonna catch us in? He's gonna make us distracted, over busy, letting the world stress us out. And, you know, like that's that's where our protection comes in. It's like, how do we keep our battery charged? You know, how do we like keep it charged? And it's like just recognizing, like you said, what you know, that's how the enemy is going to keep us away from being recharged is if we get, you know, sucked in by the world. But that that battery pack is like we got to keep that thing charged to function the very best we can.

Ashlee 27:33

I think that's where fellowship like this and prayer and having meals with people who bring you that joy and that peace and have the same mindset as you is so important. I think that's how he designed us to be.

Dr. Tabatha 27:45

Absolutely. And of course, as I was driving here this morning, um, Ashley Till on the message on Sirius XM, she she was talking about a study. It's a very famous study, and how if you are in the Word one day a week, it has no effect on your life. They've studied this two days, no effect, three days, no effect, four days, your life transforms. There's something about getting over that 50% mark of like having God in your brain, reading his word, being in fellowship more than 50% of your time during the week, that is what changes you and gets you out of this broken worldly garbage. And so, of course, I heard that before I got here this morning. I love how God works, he's hilarious. He is oh my gosh, so good. But okay, is there I know women are thinking like, wow, Tamith has had such a blessed life. Like, good for you, girl, way to go. But you are speaking from experience. You have been in the depths of hell, you've suffered some pain, you've been out of alignment, right? And I I think God uses it all just to continue to build our character and pull us closer to him. So I would love for you to share just like one example of what you have been through that you can now look back and say thank you, but at the time you were you were not happy with God that you were going through it.

SPEAKER_01 29:27

Oh gosh, I have so many. We all do, right? I have so many. Um, but okay, I'll just hit it at this recent spot. Um, you know, like my both my girls are gone. Um they've graduated, and our business had, you know, done expon exponentially well. And but we had, you know, you always have hard seasons in those, you know, like you are you are constantly stretched, like, and um so like in this new season, um, our the last few years, our business had not done as good as it always had. And so I've really been thinking about this, like because my body, you know, started doing all the like extra poundage, like things just start sticking to my body too. And um, so I'm like, it's so like parallel. But it's when you first get into these seasons where things just do not go your way, they're not happening the way you used to, you just can get really down and discouraged and upset. And again, you go into that hustle, hustle, hustle. I'm trying to, you know, do it myself. How do I fix this? How do I do this? Go back to the old ways. But

Perseverance Through The Hard Stretch

SPEAKER_01 30:54

so this season in my life, you know, there's been a lot of different things I've had happen has been really hard. And and I've spent many nights just crying in tears. But I look back because what God was teaching me is that you have to persevere, you have to persevere through it. Like you, you you're not gonna make it on your own, but with the help of God, he will get you through it. And then on this side of it, you can look back and say, thank you. Because God can't, you know, when you hit our age, life, um, God has different plans for you, but He can't, He has to break up that hard ground. And your first season of life, you're raising kids, and and it's about everybody and every, you know, everybody's needs, and then all of a sudden it's like God's got to shift up the old stuff. So he's got to break that ground up so that it because seeds can't grow in hard ground, they just can't, they can't grow in old stuff, they need to be broken up, and so that would be the lesson that I would say um all the stuff I've been through in the last few years have been have stretched me. I've cried many, many times. I've not understood, I beg God, like, oh why? But now I have light at the end of the tunnel because I see it was just a process for him to shift me into a new season, a new way of thinking. Um, and you know, the old is gone, and God wants to always do new things in us.

Dr. Tabatha 32:34

Oh my gosh, I love that. And I'm just thinking about moms in general and how there's so much infertility out there right now, and there's so many women who are praying to be a mom, you know, or they've lost one, or they got what they wanted. They have all the children and they are in the struggle. They are they are struggling right now, especially with summer coming. What am I gonna do with all these kids? How am I gonna keep my peace with them being home? And being a mom is the ultimate teacher of perseverance. Like, you can't give those kids back, you can't change your mind. Like, you can do that with a business, you can fold up, say, I'm done, I'm I'm over this online business, I can't do this anymore. But if you've really committed, like how we commit to being moms, like you figure it out every single day. You show up, you keep feeding them, you keep wiping the mouths and the butts and you know, consoling the crying and doing all the stuff. And then you get to enjoy it at the end when you see them graduate and get married and have their own babies and do all the things. And so it's like if we could just have that mindset about our health, about our businesses, about whatever we're other things we're doing in our lives, then I think we would have more peace and we will be more successful. But it's like so often we throw in the towel, we see women with that. Like menopause just does them in. And they're like, nope, I just I can't do it anymore. Screw it, you know? And they give up on their body, they give up on their health, they just accept defeat. And I'm like, but you don't do that as a mom, right? Right, you keep going.

Ashlee 34:31

Well, it feels selfish when you take care of yourself, yeah. And view it as selfish, it's not you're right, it's not.

Dr. Tabatha 34:39

That is the only way to create legacy and and be there for your adult children and continue to pass on and well, and and stop it because if you've got daughters or daughter-in-laws, they're watching you.

Ashlee 34:53

So if you just lay down and die in menopause, then that's what they're gonna do because they're gonna be like, Well, that's what mom did. Yeah, yeah, and that's not what we're gonna do. We're stopping that.

Dr. Tabatha 35:02

Okay, so Tamitha, what does legacy look like to you? Your daughters are like off doing their own thing now. You've kind of done your job raising them to an extent. What does your next season look like?

SPEAKER_01 35:19

Hmm. The next season looks like creating legacy for my the next generations that are coming up, my girls, they're you know, like for me, that's where people hit like that. Um they hit a stop. And it's like you have to prevail into the next season because I look at my my season, the legacy that I want to create is like um women, God can use women our age so powerfully because we have wisdom, we have knowledge, we have experience. You know, um, even if women aren't in business, it's like, you know, God will always take you to that process to get you what you need to refine your character. Like in in moms, like anybody who runs a household, you're running a business. You are running a business. So I think the two things is like learning your value. Like you have women our age have such value. I mean, we are known as experts. So the legacy I want to

Legacy And Breaking Generational Cycles

SPEAKER_01 36:30

create for um not only my girls, but the generations to come. The first one is is that I want to break off um anything in our bloodlines, you know. I want I want to clean them up and so that my children and the generations are going that are going forth are healthy, you know, and they can live in the full assignment and they're not 40 to 50 years old just learning how to deal with people or your emotions or you know, the triggers that you have, the past. So that would be my legacy is like I want my children's level to be expedited in their 20s and 30s that they're learning, you know, so they're healthy and live in the in the abundance that God says He He has for us, emotionally, physically, and spiritually.

Dr. Tabatha 37:21

Wow. Yeah, we can absolutely pass on terrible lifestyles, um, bad habits, terrible mindset, um, financial, you know, literacy, all the problems, or we can choose to pass on breaking those change and those generational curses, and like good lifestyles and good mindset and um a strong faith and a commitment to worshiping God and being in his word. So that's what I would challenge you this week, ladies, is uh what are you passing on in your actions? Not with your not just with your words, your words are important, but your actions, like what are your children seeing? What is your community seeing? What is your spouse seeing, your friends? Um, you have so much influence. You really, really do. And you can be in a small rural town in Wyoming or in New York City. Like it is so powerful what you can do. There's no limitations.

Ashlee 38:30

Yeah, don't let excuses stop you. And I really just encourage you to join a community of some sort. So, I mean, we have several options for you, and we would love to have you build your own business with us as in the coaching academy.

Dr. Tabatha 38:43

Yeah, exactly.

Ashlee 38:44

Oh, I'm hearing my sales training.

Dr. Tabatha 38:46

I can't believe it's gonna be so good tomorrow. Let's go. Well, it won't be tomorrow because you guys aren't hearing this. Yeah, whatever. It'll be done when you hear this, but time. Um, okay, Tamitha, tell us all about Baby Riddle because your online store is so beautiful and it it's so thoughtfully done. Like you're not just throwing baby clothes up online to be sold. There is so much heart and purpose behind your business. So please share that with my listeners so that they can go experience it for themselves.

SPEAKER_01 39:23

Oh, yeah. Okay, so we started babyriddle.com about 15 years ago. And um talk about process. It's like, it's like I'm thankful, so thankful for all this stuff that we've been. But um, our heart is first of all, we love cute, soft clothing. We carry a lot of bamboo stuff, but like in this season, like several years ago, God started showing me that that we have access to children and what we put on our children, and that um just even like praying over the children that we that come to our site, like so. For me, God's really just been highlighting the access and the the prayers, like um, our next generations are so important. So baby riddle really comes with just the again, the legacy of what we carry on to the next generations, you know. It's like I'm gonna be praying over all those kids that and families that come into our store and shop.

Baby Riddle Mission And Discount Code

SPEAKER_01 40:30

Um, you know, it's like there's not only you're not only buying clothes from me, but it's not a transaction to me. It's like I pray people in and um I pray over your children because they are our next generation. So my heart is the legacy that that we leave to our children. And and I just think it's so cool because that wasn't what I thought about when I started it, but like God just started really revealing to me what a great gift that we have to pray over these next generations. And I'm like, you know, um it says close your baby in scripture, you know. Like we got to be praying over these babies. So that's that's my heart at babyreal.com is the next generations coming up, protecting the innocent.

Dr. Tabatha 41:21

Oh, I love that so much. And you have a coupon code for our listeners, right?

SPEAKER_01 41:26

Yes, yes, yes, I do. I'm I think I said what I think it's fat uh Faith 15. Faith 15. There we go.

Ashlee 41:36

Faith 13, yes, I love it. We'll put it in the show notes too. Oh, thank you, thank you. I was like got a blank. Totally fine.

Dr. Tabatha 41:46

Girl, we all been there. Oh my goodness. Okay, ladies, everybody listening. I want you to read James this week. If you can only read, you know, for a couple minutes, read James 1, 2 to 4 and just meditate on it. Think about it, ask God to talk to you and tell you what this means in your life right now. It's so fitting. It's literally what we've been talking about the past 35, 40 minutes. So I'm gonna read this. Consider it pure joy whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. I love this scripture. It is a hard one to do, but once you finally just surrender and say, okay, I'm gonna trust that you're doing everything for my good and your glory. I'm just gonna live a Romans 8.28 life. That it is what it is. That is how I believe. This testing will produce that perseverance, and that perseverance will produce that character that Tamitha's talking about. And that is what gives you hope to continue on, to keep moving forward. And to me, like that's the arc of healing. You need hope. And so you have to shift

James 1 Perseverance And Closing Charge

Dr. Tabatha 43:16

your mindset on why things are happening to you, honestly, and trust that they're happening for you. So thank you, Tamitha, for being such a beautiful woman in my life. I'm so excited for women to know you better and to see your beautiful baby clothes. Oh my gosh, they are adorable. I just, I'm like, I need a new baby in my life. Not me personally. Yeah, I was gonna say grandbaby, right? Grand baby. But yes, I love it so much. Thank you for your time and your wisdom. It was great to meet you.

Ashlee 43:51

Thank you.

SPEAKER_01 43:51

Yes, thank you guys so much. And and I I just appreciate you so much, and I appreciate what you're doing. It's people need it, women need it.

Dr. Tabatha 44:01

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